The Infiltration of Feminism in the Church

This is not about the obivious of woman Pastors and leaders, but in the family. No longer are Christians raising their own children but depending on others to do it for them in the quest of the American Dream and the "equality" of woman. The family has been devastated and many ministries have gone wanting for the people have put the world first and God somewhere else.

The following letter written to Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family is one mother's perspective on the problem:

December 13, 1995

Dear Dr. Dobson,

Recently you broadcasted a show on working mothers. I believe it was a repeat. While this particular time I was not able to listen to the whole show, one point was mentioned that I would like to address. It was the mention of those who both blatantly and subtly make these women feel guilty. I, Dr. Dobson am one of those people. I hope you will take a moment and read my letter and someday address the issues I now raise.

I am a full-time 44 yr old mother of 8. I am at home not because I am "lucky" or because my husband makes a good salary, I am at home because of the Word of God that tells me that my children are to be my priority, that He will provide our needs and because it is the responsibility of my husband and I to train our children in His Ways! My life verse is Titus 2:3-5. I take the role as woman that God has given me quite seriously. I consider myself a "watcher", one who tries to stand back and access what is going on in our world.

Do you recall the story of the "Emperor's New Clothes"? The story tell of an emperor so vain he buys clothes that only those who are fit for his position can see. So he walks about naked for none wanted to be thought unfit or a fool. It is a child who points out the truth and the foolishness of the adults around him. Today people conduct themselves based on the "political correctness" of what the world says this particular day. Are not the children of today by their actions pointing a finger at our foolishness?

The feminist movement devalued children by legalizing abortion, then it further devaluated the children by causing women to believe that childrearing was not as important as a career or a money making job. Mothers going out to work began not as necessity but as rebellion to their role! "When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate." - Gen 3:6 (NASB) Dr. Dobson where were and where are the men today? Why did they not value their wives and children? As Christian men where was their commitment to God and His Word, or was the lure of "more" the same as that bite of the apple? We are so ingrained in vanity as not to want to stand against what is wrong but to be thought acceptable. Why don't the men reaffirm their wives in the importance of their role as wife and mother? Why are men never interviewed as to why their wives are out of the home?

God created a need in men to be the protector and the provider of the family, yet today, as Adam bit knowingly, men have abdicated that role. Is that why many men have left the family for they are not "needed"? Women have a need to be protected and provided for. Is that why many will leave their husbands for they are now fulfilling all their needs themselves? Feelings come and go! What about the concept of living within one's means? Not only are women working full-time but many are working two jobs. Why? Because there is always more! Besides there is a feeling that providing toys and clothes etc. makes one a good parent. When one lived within their means, it was the means of the husband. It can be done! Not only is my family proof of God's blessings, even undeserved for we have not been wise with His provision. But He has provided and though we may even run late or behind on a bill, He has always seen us through! One family I know had been willing to live in a one room house as it took years to shape up to become a two bedroom home. This is because the father put the priority on the mother to be with the children, not on a house! "No servant can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one, and love the other, or else he will hold to one, and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon." - Luke 16:13 (NASB) Dr. Dobson, something has to be sacrificed. Today to our shame not even the church takes a strong stand on this. Very few churches will stress the importance of the parents, (with the mother at home) raising their own children!

One woman on your show was working to help her husband obtain his doctorate. Was this piece of paper worth the heartache and disruption of his family? In retrospect was it worth it? Did he go first with the Lord with this decision? The Lord raises those He chooses, His way. I have been taught these guidelines for decision making: Am I putting God's desire ahead of my own? Will it help me to love God and others more? How does this action relate to my personal involvement in fulfilling Christ's Great commission? Am I providing a good witness to others? Will this help me lead a more holy life? Have I sought His Word on it in the Bible? Have I prayed? Have I sought counsel from a mature Christian? Have I honestly answered all these questions honestly?!

Dr. Dobson, what about our witness to the world? Today we fight a political system that wants and is taking our rights away. We gave them away when the men and the women of the church followed the ways of the world. It is given to the parents to train up their children, it is to the parent's shame when they abdicate their roles! "A foolish son is a grief to his father, And bitterness to her who bore him." - Prov 17:25 (NASB) "And these words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart; and you shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up." - (Deu 6:6-7) Children learn by example. Children value others as they are valued and those around them. The feminist statement that the husband and the children have to understand the mother's need has produced a totally selfish generation! Children are not taught their value as they are hustled off to a sitter or a caregiver before they can understand . New parents rejoice in their new baby, but then when the child is barely a month or more old, the attitude is "O.K. its time to get back to the "real world". And the child is place "on the shelf" till they want to take the time to dust them off and play with them. A second-hand mom is more acceptable than second-hand clothes! How many children today call others Mommy because theirs is not there! I have a friend who used to babysit and the kids cried when they had to go home. After all she was the one who loved and cared for them. God's love is action. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8A) The children don't learn loyalty and commitment as if one sitter or caregiver fails or quits, they just move on to another! Does not the pre-school years prepare the adult to come?

Recently in a local newspaper, the Asbury Park Press (11-30-95), an editorial columnist, Mona Charen, wrote a column titled "Feminist movement paid a steep price." As she spoke of the feminist desire for government and business to provide for the children's care, she writes: "Friedan rejects the idea a mother must choose between work and raising her kids. That may get applause on college campuses, but it rings false to anyone who is actually at home with children. A woman holding down a demanding full-time job cannot also raise her kids. It is the person who is with them all day who decides what they will read and see, how well they handle anger. Caretakers instill, bit by bit, their moral codes, their manners and even their enthusiasms. That doesn't mean that a mother who works is irrelevant to her children - only that the major task of childrearing has been subcontracted out". Dr. Dobson, is Balaam's ass speaking to us?

In 1 Timothy 5:10 it lists the qualifications of a widow to be assisted. I have felt this is a good guideline for my work as a Christian woman. Not only expected to have "raised" children (not just given birth to) and to serve the saints. Today it is hard to have people commit to service in the church. Our service to the Lord is our whole life, not just a Sunday morning or a "good deed" here or there. There is a real lack of power, for people are not sold out to God, even those in full time service it is whatever is convenient. How many women once they have their children in school, look for a paying job instead of serving the elderly, a visit, a word of scripture, a prayer and a clean, dusted house, a harried new mom getting a hand from an older one, knowing she is experiencing what others have before her. Time to listen to a wounded friend or neighbor.. Where is the mom to listen to her children's day and correcting what is contary to God's Word. To share the Gospel with others BUT NOT AT THE EXPENSE OF THE FAMILY!

Dr. Dobson, I am not the perfect mother nor am I the perfect Christian. I know there are cases where either a single mom or a family may temporaily need two incomes. Larry Burkett has written a book on how to stay at home. Downsizing is occurring. But where is the church?!! Is the church teaching and encouraging our men and women to plan before they even plan to marry, to raise their children themselves. Our teens, especially our teens need a guiding presence! Where does the church honor the mother at home? One Mother's Day, the magazine "Today's Christian Woman" honored a woman who as they stated was chairman of the board and mother of "Sue". Remember what Mona Charen said above that the major task of childrearing being sub-contracted out! What is the church teaching?!

To our shame many times it is the programs for children missing because we don't have the people. The church worries about it's adults being burnt out. There is no consistency in the witness. Our family has brought other children out only to have youth groups fizzle when those doing it burn out. Over the years we have not been able to send our children to a youth group that fizzle out after just a year or so. We have even sent our children to other church youth groups when ours have failed. Where is our witness to our children about service to God! Where is our service to God when the lure of "more" causes more hours of work ? We sacrifice our service to the church!

The Proverbs woman is often used to give credence to the "two income family", but is the family today rising up and praising the woman? And when it does, is it for her godly witness or for her paycheck?

The Word of God is not always welcomed. Remember even Jesus spoke things that drove the religious leaders mad. I pray that I do display His love and am not a "clanging cymbal". I love my God, His Word, His people and His children. But when a woman comes and says I got a new job, I do not praise and usually say "Oh, what about your kids?" Or when at a Bible study I try to encourage women to find joy and fulfillment in serving God in their family or in service to Him.

We need to teach and set examples for not only our young people, but even the world for it is God's love that makes us different. If we put the value and the responsibility back in the home, not in the government, God will be better served!

The "working mother" has taken many rights of the family away by demanding that the world take over her role as mother! If the mother at home does not use peer pressure she will become extinct. God has always valued obedience over gifts. We need to once again be radical Christians obeying God in opposition to the world.

Yours in the service of Jesus,
(Name withheld by request)

Focus on the Families reply was worthy of any politican by not making a firm stand. In it FOF said they would not urge families to strive to have the woman at home as the Bible says (for they did not see it as a command of God). Plus they said it would only cause the women to have theological guilt heaped on them.

In a followup letter to Dr. Dobson, this mother wrote:

Dear Dr. Dobson,

I heard part of your program in the middle of the night. I was very happy that you are calling parents to task of their responsibility. I am head of the children's ministry in my church and have often said that we are there to "ASSIST!" NOT TAKE THE PLACE OF PARENTS! We are there to confirm their teachings not to do their job!

One thing grieves me. It is your fear of placing guilt. Guilt can be good if it brings to the person realization of the fact they have done something wrong. That is how and why sin is repented of. I have written in the past of the need to get back to God's Word and teach families that the mothers are commanded to raise their children not to subcontract or abdicate the role by placing their children into the care of another!

Guilt? Let's see what Dr. Ravenhill writes in his book Why Revival Tarries! ....Chapter Four


.....Brethren, if we will do God's work in God's way at God's time with God's power, we shall have God's blessing and the devil's curses. When God opens the windows of heaven to bless us, the devil will open the door of hell to blast us. God's smile means the devil's frown! Mere preachers may help anybody and hurt nobody; but prophets will stir everybody and madden somebody. The preacher may go *with* the crowd; the prophet goes *against* it. A man freed, fired, and filled with God will be branded unpatriotic because he speaks against his nation's sins; unkind because his tongue is a two-edged sword; unbalanced because the weight of preaching opinion is against him. The preacher will be heralded; the prophet hounded.

Ah! brother preachers, we love the old saints, missionaries, martyrs, reformers: our Luthers, Bunyans, Wesleys, Asburys, etc. We will write their biographies, reverence their memories, frame their epitaphs, and build their cenotaphs. We will do anything except imitate them. We cherish the last drop of their blood, but watch the first drop of our own!....."

Be the prophet that God has called you to be Dr. Dobson. The lives of His people and children are at stake. You, yourself said that the church alone can not do it. You said that values are caught not taught. Too often the children see the adults are hypocrites for God is for Sunday or church activities only. How can they know a personal God when they don't know their parents personally? Afterall caregivers are interchangable, does this not make the parent unnecessary, does this not make a god to our liking more reasonable? A god is the one who holds command of one's soul. Who is in command of the souls today?

The children today do not see the True God, for they see the god of money and prestige of America as the true god of their parents.

In Jesus' Service,
(Name withheld by request)

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